Here's Gracie's lowdown on what makes a marriage work:
1) Do not swear at each other when angry. Don't slam doors, walk out the house, blame the other person for things that happened before. The best way to respect someone is to stay grounded when all u want to do is strangle them and call them a retarded monkey. Don't get me wrong, we make these mistakes all the time - so when you fail, which will be often, see point 2.
2) When point 1 cannot be avoided, let it go and consciously make an effort to make up that very day, if not immediately. Never go to bed without solving all issues. It breeds agitation & resentment and tears the two of you further apart. Trust me, pride is not something you should be looking for in a husband, uh-uh sista! A man that is not willing to say sorry (especially if he's NOT wrong) is not husband material. Marry the guy that can recognize how to salvage a situation, and not how to make sure he wins or gets his point across. And don't even think of marrying someone in the hopes that you can change him... see next point.
3) People don't change. They may in little ways, or try to in bigger ways - but the fact is a goat is a goat is a goat. So choose wisely and once you have, don't regret your decision. Never compare against others and love your husband for all his strengths, but even more so for his weaknesses. Those things that are not so great about him should be the reason why he has you - to balance him out DUH. Cos you're obviously perfect and have no faults. Holla. Once you think of it that way, you will feel more empowered instead of resentful.
4) Finally, marry someone that thinks you're the bees knees. I find it ridiculous that people put strict rules on the guy having to be a rich cunt, over 180cm, and owns heaps of shit. Uh... I've been there and ppl like that are usually mentally deranged, have a psycho step-mum, and/or have Hep B. Yes - those are facts.
The real secret to a happy marriage is finding someone that always puts you first. Case in point: I'd rather have a guy that has $1 and gives me $1 than a guy who has millions and gives me $100k.
I hope that somewhat answers the question. I might not be right, but at least this is what is right for me. And with this, I want to be THANKFUL for my ruthlessly temperamental, infinately flawed, goose of a husband. He's gonna be a great dad :D
I found an old pic of that night 3 years ago when we "officially" started dating hehe...
Nov 2007 @ Trademark Hotel in Sydney's Kings Cross:
xxoo
